Courage Campaign members standing up for their children

March 13, 2011 at 6:15 pm 37 comments

By Adam Bink

Yesterday, I attended wonderful one-day conference sponsored by the Haas, Jr. Foundation, discussing principally issues that are under-reported and under-funded in the LGBT movement. One of them was family acceptance and coming out.

In one of the most heartwarming videos I have ever seen, here are Courage Campaign members Ed and Elizabeth, from Modesto, CA, with their son EJ:

Ed and Elizabeth drove from Modesto to San Francisco to be present at the conference and talked after the video. I caught up with Ed and Elizabeth afterwards and exchanged big hugs for their courage in standing up for their son and accepting who he is. They’re such amazing people telling an amazing story. They now run a safe space for parents having trouble with their children’s orientation in Modesto, called “The Place”, at College Avenue Congregational Church, every 2nd and 4th Thursdays from 7-9 PM.

You’re going to be seeing more of this family — and stories like theirs — in the weeks to come. Ed and Elizabeth told me they saw the Ed/Derence video from Palm Springs and are excited to help tell more stories like theirs. The power of storytelling will help move us forward.

Update: Me with Ed and Elizabeth:

Photo courtesy of Karen Ocamb,


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  • 1. Alan E.  |  March 13, 2011 at 6:19 pm

    I stand up for my future children, and I’m incredibly grateful for parents like these who publicly voice their support.

    • 2. Mike  |  March 13, 2011 at 7:06 pm

      Wish my parents had acted likewise; instead of throwing me out – never to see me again.
      But society-in-general has treated me the same way, as a third class citizen with a lack of equal rights.
      Can I blame my parents for their ignorance ? Or should I blame the collective ignorance and hatred of the USA ?

      I don’t have the same rights
      I am the constant subject of discussion in the Media – with pundits – more like bigots – arguing that I don’t have the right to a family of my own.

      Not only I don’t have the right to marry – but even if married (which I am – in a third country – Belgium in my case), I don’t have the right to sponsor my partner for a Visa. Yet, the USA, DEMANDS, that I pay every April 15th the same share of taxes, as my high school best friend who by Nature’s luck was born heterosexual and has been given all his entitled Constitutional rights to pursuit his happiness.

      I am tired, very tired
      Overwhelmed by the persecution

      • 3. Bob  |  March 13, 2011 at 8:07 pm

        @Mike,,,, very well said,,,, excellent post,,,, sounds like your story needs to be told loud and clear,,,, thanks for sharing you’re truth,,,,, on behalf of all those who have parents who are not accepting,,,,, and actually fight for continued discrimation…. against their own flesh and blood……

      • 4. Gregory in Salt Lake City  |  March 14, 2011 at 7:12 am

        BIG SIGH…..sorry for your extreme challenges Mike : (

  • 5. Richard A. Jernigan  |  March 13, 2011 at 6:22 pm

    The world need more parents like Ed and Elizabeth as well as our parents here on P8TT. And we need all of these parents to share their stories.

  • 6. Rhie  |  March 13, 2011 at 6:25 pm


  • 7. Sagesse  |  March 13, 2011 at 6:34 pm

    Family cuts both ways. LGBT Americans are dispersed throughout society. Many families will be accepting; some will be cruelly unaccepting.

  • 8. Kathleen  |  March 13, 2011 at 6:54 pm

    • 9. JonT  |  March 13, 2011 at 8:46 pm

  • 10. Straight Ally #3008  |  March 13, 2011 at 6:58 pm

    What an amazing story! It’s never easy being different, but how heartwarming that even someone like EJ’s dad can adapt. It also illustrates the “peace and love” vs. “fire and brimstone” versions of Christianity – what a positive step that they found a new faith community.

  • 11. Mark M (Seattle)  |  March 13, 2011 at 9:00 pm

    Now those are some wonderful parents!
    EJ is so lucky to be loved so deeply.
    God bless them!

  • 12. Rev. Will Fisher  |  March 14, 2011 at 6:06 am

    Completely OT: file under #nomfail. On their latest blog post about homophobe NY Assemblyman Dov Hikind, they spelled his name ‘Don’, over and over again. NOM needs a copy editor as well as some compassion.

    • 13. Rev. Will Fisher  |  March 14, 2011 at 6:07 am

      PS: in Hebrew, Dov means ‘bear’.

    • 14. Ed  |  March 14, 2011 at 6:29 am

      Not only that…..but why are they posting a vid from May 2009, almost 2 years ago?

      • 15. AnonyGrl  |  March 14, 2011 at 8:52 am

        Because the actual NEWS in their favor is thinner than it appears?

    • 16. grod  |  March 14, 2011 at 7:05 am

      @Rev. Will Fisher
      Any ideas on demonstrating compassion without reinforcing errant ways, asked a sinner. G

      • 17. Rev. Will Fisher  |  March 14, 2011 at 7:29 am

        I meant that NOM lacks any ability to show compassion, not that are deserving of…

  • 18. Gregory in Salt Lake City  |  March 14, 2011 at 6:12 am

    This video comes from the Family Acceptance Project spearheaded by Dr. Caitlin Ryan:

    I met Dr. Ryan at last October at Utah Pride Center Family Acceptance Regional Conference where she presented this video with hopes creating a of 8 total documentaries about “…ethnically and religiously diverse families with LGBT children”

    Me and Dr. Ryan:

    • 20. Gregory in Salt Lake City  |  March 14, 2011 at 7:37 am

      LOVE IT! thanks for posting!

      • 21. Ed  |  March 14, 2011 at 7:43 am

        I just noticed Zach Wahls is among the signers :)

        • 22. Gregory in Salt Lake City  |  March 14, 2011 at 8:02 am

          : D

      • 23. Gregory in Salt Lake City  |  March 14, 2011 at 8:05 am

        I appreciate having celebrities who have CLOUT and MONEY join the effort!

    • 24. Straight Ally #3008  |  March 14, 2011 at 8:43 am

      Protip for the President: You’re already against DOMA, emphasize that you have, after much thought, support civil marriage equality but understand how important it is to protect the freedom of religious groups to administer wedding rites as they see fit. Not that it was every really in danger because of the First Amendment, but because NOM et al. want to blur the distinction.

  • 25. Ronnie  |  March 14, 2011 at 7:58 am

    “The power of storytelling will help move us forward.”

    So true….<3…Ronnie

  • 26. Gregory in Salt Lake City  |  March 14, 2011 at 8:10 am

    OFF TOPIC: Kate’s Keet update : D

    • 27. Kate  |  March 14, 2011 at 8:39 am

      Aw shucks, Gregory….. you are such a sweetie!

      • 28. AnonyGrl  |  March 14, 2011 at 8:57 am

        So, EIGHT of the hatched so far? That is so darn cool. And I like the lavendar one!

        • 29. Kate  |  March 14, 2011 at 9:11 am

          Yes, incredible, given what those eggs went through in the power outage. The second batch (which also went through it) is due at the end of the month. I candled the eggs last night, and there are live embryos!

          • 30. Kate  |  March 14, 2011 at 9:12 am

            By the way …… how’s this for a fabulous P8TT community connection? Sheryl Carver will be coming up to the ranch after the next hatch to get some keets to add to her own guinea flock!

          • 31. Gregory in Salt Lake City  |  March 14, 2011 at 9:21 am

            added 1 more pict. so fluffy and cute!

          • 32. AnonyGrl  |  March 14, 2011 at 9:25 am

            Very cool!!!

          • 33. Richard A. Jernigan  |  March 14, 2011 at 3:01 pm

            This is just one more example of good karma coming home to roost! You have been such a rallier and supporter here, so karma jumped right in there and rallied your guinea eggs so they would be safe and hatch!

      • 34. Richard A. Jernigan  |  March 14, 2011 at 1:40 pm

        They are ADORABALE! And Tioga is so sweet!

  • 35. Ronnie  |  March 14, 2011 at 8:30 am

    Ethan & Ryan Hawke are New Yorkers that support Marriage Equality.

    LOVE our Straight Allies…..<3…Ronnie

  • 36. Ed  |  March 14, 2011 at 9:51 am

    Ot…but some thoughts I’d like to share about the US Constitution. Whenever I was taught about it, I was always taught that it was a “living document”. Now, at the time, I always wondered…’s a piece of paper… can it be living….? But as I have gotten older, I became to understand how it is *indeed* living. How? Because it is designed to be interpreted, NOT literal. I am no where near a constitutional lawyer, yet even lowly me has grasped that concept….and Scalia ( I think he was the one….correct me if I am wrong) apparently does not. Anyway…..just some random thoughts…..

  • 37. AB  |  March 14, 2011 at 10:37 am

    Today is the day for opening briefsin the CA SC. I am excited!… so nerdy. :-(


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